Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Best day ever....recently anyway.

Worked 10 full, successful hours

Drove safely to and from work

Kiddos had done dishes, laundry and vacuumed (my personal favorite)

Made my children's favorite dinner. (Chickety China the Chinese Chicken, steamed squash, watermelon)

Phone date with the love of my life ♥

Bubble bath with cherry blossom bubbles.....*note, the Bath and Body Works Big Sale begins 6-10*

Board game with Zach and Dolly ( Zooreka, tons of fun and I got the hippo enclosure. I LOVE HIPPOS!)

Laughing about dog poop, dry heaves, and emotional damage with Jake

Blissful, night-sweat free sleep


Friday, May 27, 2011

Graduation Part Deux

Jakey graduated last night. I am filled with conflicting emotions, much as every other mother sitting in the stands.

 As I watch his hulking, 6 ft 4 frame bounce towards the outstretched hands of well wishers, I am really seeing a little boy who loves popsicles and legos, who likes to have story time with his mom, watch cooking shows, and be excited over garlic tools for his birthday. I see a 5 year old that was so painfully shy he would hide behind my legs at family parties so as to not have to engage people in chit chat. (He still cannot tolerate bullcrap conversation).

 I see a young man, so special, good, and funny, that he moved his third grade teacher, Mr. Calendar, to tears trying to describe his potential and his gratitude for having him in class.

I see a young man in his struggle to be who he is as opposed to what countless people are telling him he should be and having the vision and courage to stand up for himself and what he believes in.

I see a man...beginning his journey without his mom.

I also see relief for the mom who no longer has to call and haul his butt out of bed to make sure he doesn't have another un excused absence. I see her pride that he has earned a SCHOLASTIC DIPLOMA because, truly, he is a badass. I see a mom missing her son and their shared love of all things ridiculous, of lying in bed watching the Big Bang Theory, of reading The Best of Craig's List and listening to jokes that one should really not tell their mom. I see a mom pretending to be asleep when her very responsible son makes it home before curfew because she cannot sleep until he is home safe but doesn't want him to know it. I see a mom, kicking her son out into the world, watching with pride and crying as she does it.

I love this boy....man. Well done Jakey. I believe in you. XO

Saturday, May 7, 2011


I did it! I really, truly, did it. Yay me. I am thankful to my children and Seann for their patience whilst I wondered through the pitfalls of higher education.

 I am thankful that they never said "REALLY?" when I hassled them about procrastinating their homework until the last second and then was stressed out and grumpy because I did the same thing.

I am thankful to my mother for setting the example that earning one's education, even a little later in life, could prove to be the saving grace of one's family.

I am thankful to my employer for paying for my degree.

I am thankful to the Vava's for knowing that I would glitter my mortar board even before I did and for taking me to our favorite breakfast spot to celebrate with eggs and Diet Coke.

And I am thankful to the Love of My Life for celebrating me in his own, quiet way and making me feel like I was invincible. XOXOX

Masters of Science in Psychology...here I come.

Monday, April 18, 2011

Graduation and Flowers

Today was my last day of my Bachelors of Science in Communications Degree. That's right, at age 41, I am finally completing my degree.

 I find it ridiculous to think that I had a 14 years as a stay at home mom with time to actually go to school and never did. It took a divorce, single parenthood, a new, full time job and the prospect of a disaster looming on the horizon to add full time student to my title. At a time when I had NO TIME, I chose to add 15-20 hours a week to my schedule in homework, reading and paper writing. I have sat at ball games, highlighting communications theories between batters, used the light of my cell phone to read chapters of mythology and religion while waiting for a movie to start, turned down offers of fun to write a paper on ancient Greece and procrastinated until the last possible second to complete an assignment under the guise of me 'working better under pressure'.

In my work, I talk people who were just like me and afraid of being unsuccessful in school or adding another chore to their already busy lives. Today, one of those students, an outstanding woman named Angie, recognized my achievement by sending me this gorgeous flower arrangement and a box of chocolates to work. The card was simple and congratulated me on reaching my goal. When I called to thank her, she told me that it was important to mark the day and celebrate my degree.

Thanks you Angie, for recognizing my hard work. Thank you for bringing me to tears and making me feel like I had done something worthwhile and worth recognizing me. I appreciate you and hope you will be around to talk me through my Masters of Science in Psychology as well. I am going to need it.

PS~ Graduation is April 30. Pictures will follow. YAY ME!!!!

Wednesday, April 6, 2011


I may not be religious any more, having chosen to let go of the faith in which I was raised. (That is a whole 'nother story that brings up a conversation about POSERS and very "righteous, influential people" throwing rocks from their own glass living rooms, but alas, that is for a different day.) Bullies are people who feel happy when other people feel bad. They may have had some sort of traumatic incident in their childhood precipitating these episodes of anti-social behavior, but let's get out my childhood and compare notes, shall we? I may not always be the best behaved girl in the world...I am loud, opinionated (but less so as I get older), and oblivious sometimes, but I mean well. Mostly. At work, we have to participate in trainings about sexual harrassment and corporate compliance with the bottom line being INTENT DOES NOT MATTER. You may not intend to offend someone with a comment, but if they are offended, your perplexed butt will be hauled in to HR so fast it will make your head spin. "Do not gather your things dear, we will do it for you. Now about what you said to so and so......." But..I digress. I have been being bullied for years. You would think that with the mouth and the opinions, I would handle this sort of thing well, but nope. I do not like confrontation. I don't like to hurt people's feelings and I don't like them to hurt mine. I just want everyone to share their toys and go home from the playground tired and happy. There is always one kid in the box that likes to throw sand that messes it up for everyone. I am about to being backed into a corner of the sandbox and am having to make a choice I don't want to make. I want people to get along. I want people to do what is best for others sometimes and not themselves, I want people to wake up, look around them and see that their actions are hurting people around them who can only stand, gobsmacked, and watch as thier favorite tos are kicked and smashed to smithereens. The intent, I have hoped for some time, is that the bully is stupid. Now I think not. Now I think the bully is worse than stupid, the bully is sinister. The bully has intentions of which I know nothing if I am being truthful but you know what bully? INTENT DOES NOT MATTER. You watched the compliance videos too. Yeah, today pretty much sucked.

Monday, February 21, 2011

Snish or snow-ish.

I love this girl. She makes me smile every day. She is messy, forgetful and a complete procrastinator. She is also funny, intelligent, gifted, kindhearted, brave, generous and beautiful. She is my perfect Dolly, Peanut Butter, Sister, Saturday Night Live date night watching, toenail painting, singing in the shower, baby girl.
Me, my sister Stacey and Dolly drove to the snow.....or we thought we were driving to the snow. Instead we found 'snish' or snow...ish. As we were taking pictures, I asked Dolly to come take one of me and the Snarf. "Ok," she sang, "but I am not going to be very good at it." She was right, she was amazing, PLUS, made us laugh until we almost tinkled. Love you so so so Peanut Butter. XO

Monday, February 14, 2011

♥♥Valentine's Day ♥♥

Tradition states that Valentine's day at our home involves heart shaped cookies with names written on them for everyone. This year was no exception, except that Zach has turned out to be a BOMB.COM helper.
Also, tradition, as it turns out, means that I am going to blow off my paper due tonight. I am justifying this blatant disregard for rules and authority by telling myself that it is only worth 5 points and that I only have 7 weeks of school left until I have my BS/COM. Please, feel free to comment with your support. :)

Sunday, February 13, 2011

Academic Decathlon

Academic Decathlon is a big deal in our family. This past weekend, Mountain View won regionals for the second year in a row. I am certain that in years past, this has been a dignified event. I know, because I was here last year too when Jake was the only junior on the team. It was filled with polite cheering during the SuperQuiz when the school of a persons choice held up their talisman. It all changed when we showed up. :)

Last year at the State Championship, (which we won), I brought a cowbell and a drumstick. When our team held up 'Holy Cow' I banged the crap out of that bell, much to the chagrin of the family on front of me. I thought Jake would kill me when it was over....but I found out at Nationals in Nebraska (we took second), that the team was disappointed we hadn't brought it with us! I wouldn't make that mistake again.

This year for regionals, I enlisted Kimball as well and like the proud father he is, showed up with cowbells for every member of his family. We made some NOISE! It worked....we won. I am sure that it was all because of us.
Way to go Jakey! We are so proud of you.

Friday, February 11, 2011


Ok, so what better time to catch up than when you are dying? Not actually dying, just cannot stop spinning and feeling like throwing up all over your rumply sheets kind of dying. This is day 2 home from work and I know that sounds like a bonus, but it is not, and here is why.

I love my job. I love that people call me terrified and needing help and in a sick, twisted way, that gives me my jollies. Speaking of sick and twisted, the people I work with are FANTASTIC. I love them too. I had no idea that when I was a stay at home mom, there were such interesting, compassionate, funny as hell people outside of my comfy circle. So here is a shout out to the people with whom I spend more time than my family every week;

Shawn, Stacie, Michael, Kyle, Joe, PT, Hunter, Barb, Jen, Sony, Brian, Butch, Bruce, Lance, Younglbood, Brad, Carmelyn, Brett, Bart, Stacey, Christina, Rafael, Jo, Kodi, Maria, Kevin, Adam, Melaine and Jason Grayson. (That is really his name and he is awesome.)

Now....I am going to throw up and take a nap.

Sunday, March 28, 2010

Let's try this again!

So......life is too good to only keep track of it in my journal. It certainly has it's ups and downs, but we are blessed beyond measure and I am truly grateful.

This past week, Nana took us all to San Diego for a few days. We went to Sea Port Village, Coronado Beach and Sea World. The only thing missing was Jake who had decided to go to Mexico with his dad.
We love to be together and spent every minute hanging out, laughing and enjoying time with each other and nothing to do. Cody brought Brodyman (3), Nana and John Reed, Stacey and Scott, me, Seann, Dolly and Zach played and played and played. Cannot wait for our next family adventure in the fall. Now....I need to call Fif and ask her how to post a bunch of pictures. :)

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Flying to Cali.

We talked on the phone more and more and one night in late October it happened. As I was falling asleep during one of our marathon bedtime talks, instead of just saying goodbye, I had the undeniable desire to say, I love you. Wow. There it was. How had this happened? It had snuck up on me without me knowing...no effort, no soul searching..it just ...was. And it was so easy and FUN. I wasn't brave enough to say it the first time I felt it, but the silence was so loud on both ends of the phone, that I know he felt it too.

So, here it was. I was in love with a man that lived thousands of miles away from me. I had never felt more secure or more loved and I sure as hell had never felt so tingly. So now what?

Project Redwood and I set up a time for me to fly out to see him in November. I remember all my friends being worried about me, where was I going to stay, what was I going to do if he was crazy, blah, blah, blah...... For some reason, I had no fear about flying to somewhere I had never been to stay with a man I was just getting to know. The night before I left, my mom called me and I asked her if she thought I was crazy. She said no, that she thought I was brave enough to listen to my heart, to take a chance and see what happened, she was proud of me for having courage and wished me the best of luck.

As I flew over, I couldn't help but feel excited. In truth, I only knew what he had told me, so my friends had a point that he could be a serial killer with a motor home, but I had faith. As I came down the escalator at the Sacramento airport, I scanned the crowd to see where he was.

I found him.

Leaning against a Starbucks with his arms folded and a half smile on his face and his hazel eyes shining. He actually took my breath away with how sexy he looked. So smug, so confidant, so inviting. When I got to the bottom, we approached each other slowly, both of us sensing this was the real, true beginning of something that would change both our paths forever. He wrapped me in his big, burly arms and kissed me....I melted right there. Any shadow of a doubt was removed and I held hands and walked to his truck with him, this man who was becoming my everything.

The drive to his house was almost an hour away, so we settled in together and talked, laughed and joked all the way to Ione. I had been up since 4:30am that morning and here it was, 11pm, so I was getting sleepy. We arrived at his lovely home...and I was shocked. His doors were unlocked and open! I was sure he had been robbed and assumed we would call the police, but he laughed and told me he hadn't locked his doors since he had lived there. Talk about arriving in Mayberry. :)

His home was warm and inviting, with cinnamon roll candles burning, and soft music playing, I felt at ease immediately. (Well, OK, as soon as he locked the doors.) I unpacked, took a shower, washed my makeup off and brushed my teeth to get ready for bed because I was exhausted. When I came out in my jammies, he looked at me kind of funny, but told me later that he loved that I was so at home and not one of those girls who had to be "done up" to be comfortable.

I slept great that night, ready for the adventure of tomorrow and the promise of Lake Tahoe.

Saturday, May 17, 2008

Living in the now

Last night, someone I love very much was almost killed in a car accident. Luckily, they will be ok, but the what if's are consuming me.

What I have learned is this.

I have an amazing life. I love my children, my family, my friends, my home, my job and just about everything else that touches me. Sure there are some crappy days, but those days are part of my life too. Sometimes I am so consumed with what is going to happen tomorrow that I miss what is happening today.

If you love someone, you should tell them...often. If you are good at something, you should participate in it...often. You should try hard to make those around you have a lighter burden, because when it comes down to it, what you make others feel is your legacy. If people leave your funeral and can say..."I loved her, I remember when..." and laugh, then your job as a human being, one of God's creatures is done and done well.

I have loved fully. This is a gift that most people don't get to experience. Most people go through life, find something that feels good and they go with it. I have been blessed beyond reason to have experienced something different. I have shared a connection with another human being that defies logic and sense. I have given myself fully and been burned, but I will not be bitter, because what he gave me was a gift. I cannot own what someone else does with a gift. I cannot be responsible if someone chooses to throw their gift away. I can only control myself, and so I choose to be thankful. I choose to be hopeful. I choose to be patient. I choose to be kind.

I will live and laugh and love and dance like nobody is watching. You never know when it will all be ripped from your hands. You don't have a choice in that.

I choose to never let anyone I love wonder if I love them. I choose to embrace life fully and love with reckless, hopeful abandon. I choose life, love and happiness.

If that is the case...how can it NOT choose me?

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

The next night

after work, I began the trek to his hotel in North Phoenix to go to dinner. We talked on the phone most of the way there and I will admit, I felt quietly confidant. More like I was going to dinner with an old friend than begining an adventure with a possible new love.
Alright, I did pull over and mess with my lip gloss once...ok, and I made sure my eyeliner wasn't smudged. I wore red that day because it made me feel beautiful too. (What? I am still a girl!)

When I got there, he invited me in and we sat for a few minutes before we went to dinner. It was like being in the company of someone I had known forever, I cannot explain it further than that because unless you were there, it doesn't make sense. In my head, I was attracted to him, but still hesitant to really jump in with both feet. After all, he could still be a serial killer, and I wanted to take my time getting to know him.

We drove to Pappa Deux. I had never been and he thought it looked cool, so that was the spot. We did the first date thing, learning more about each other, starting to get used to each others presence. When I suggested that we try fried alligator for an appetizer, he gave me a look and said "Seriously?" Hell yes seriously. Why not try something new? It seemed to be the new code I was living by, and I was going with it! (FYI, I thought it was disgusting, he actually liked it. Go figure.)

After dinner, we walked back to the car, both of us swimming around in the newness of what we were feeling, a mixture of old friends-new beginings. When we got back to the parking lot at the hotel, I started to walk him to his room, when he unexpectedly grabbed my wrist and pulled me to his chest. That was when it happened. Something that has only ever happened one other time in my entire 37 years.
My heart lept and my stomach turned over.
This man, who I was just starting to know, had made my heart pound with anticipation, fear, longing, excitement, joy and confusion. All I could think was 'PAY ATTENTION. This is not something that you can blow off.....this man makes your heart race.'

Then he kissed me and all I can say is that it was magical. (How cheesy does THAT sound? If I hadn't lived it, I would get a little nauseaous with the Disneyness of it.)This man, from so far away, who was nothing like me or the people I grew up with had made me feel like I was 16 and on my very first date.

As I wobbled to my car to begin the long drive home, my whole self wanted to stay there with him and begin forever....

............but we all know it doesn't work like that.

I settled for calling him and talking all the way home.

Sunday, May 11, 2008

That night...

...flew by. I cannot remember what we talked about, but I know we talked for hours, about everything and nothing. He interested me and I felt somehow.......alert, to the fact that my senses were tingling.

The thing is, I was in no hurry to meet anyone. I was still recovering from my divorce and from a short, intense relationship with an old high school friend, and was really just looking to have some fun. To meet new people, broaden my horizons............you know. Date.

I think we talked every night for a few weeks, when he casually mentioned that he was going to be in town for an IT conference at the end of September. Would we like to meet face to face? My initial reaction was fear. Things were going so well on the phone, what if we met and it ruined everything? How ridiculous was that? What was I thinking..that we could just go on talking for the rest of our lives? Of course we had to meet. To see if this chemistry carried over in person as well. So, plans were made for him to come over and have a soda and just meet. That's all, meet.

I was a WRECK. I remember going to work that day and telling all my friends his name and where he was from, just in case I disappeared. (I also reminded them of the Lawn Mowing Stalker and that they might ought to check out both men if I went MIA.) All my friends at work thought I was nuts. Who, they asked, flies out here to meet someone with just the idea of meeting them? They were just sure that he was going to turn out to be a serial killer who would bury me in the backyard, and I have to admit, they had me second guessing myself a little.

I got home from work and started busying myself by tidying the house and trying to focus on something other than my nerves. He called when he got close for last minute directions and before I knew it, I saw his headlights approaching from the west. I remember taking a deep breath and thinking, "Here we go...be cool." I also remember wondering why I was so nervous? What did it matter if he liked me or I liked him in person? We were already friends...what was there to lose?

He pulled into the driveway in his dark grey Dodge Charger and stepped out. He was taller than I imagined and had shy eyes. He took a short glance at me, then a longer look and said,
"You're cute."
It broke the tension and we both laughed and I hugged him. He was solid and smelled nice, (good sign). I invited him in and we talked for a little bit. Upon closer inspection, he had lovely hazel eyes and long, super cow eyelashes. He was dressed in jeans and skater shoes, a big ol' kid. And one other thing, he couldn't stop staring at me. It wasn't disconcerting though, as one might expect. Actually, it had the exact opposite effect. I got sleepy. (That never happens, I am too high strung to relax in the presence of a stranger.) I actually started to doze off as we talked on the couch, and before I knew it, i was curled against him with my head on his chest drifting off to sleep!
It was one of the most comfortable moments of my life. It just felt familiar, relaxing and completely safe.

I don't know how long he was there, but it wasn't long enough, and soon he had to go back to his hotel because we both had early mornings. Before he left, we made plans to see each other the next night for dinner, but I would drive out to his side of town, over by Metro Center.

I don't remember if we talked on the phone after he left, I just remember feeling like I should pay attention. This could be big.

Saturday, May 10, 2008

Project Redwood

One of my students came up with the name Project Redwood when we were talking about a new guy I was seeing who happened to live in Northern California. I love it. Makes me feel like 007, talking in code.

I joined eHarmony in May of 2007, mainly because my mom had met her husband on the site and I had never seen her so happy. I went on many, many, MANY first dates. Notice I say first dates.

We kicked off the adventure with "The Masturbator." We only spoke on the phone once, and for obvious reasons, I cut the phone call very short. . . . ok, let's try this again.

Guy number two was sincere and sweet and very, very sweaty. Poor guy sweat right through our meal and continued the disaster by belching up his steak and onions all during the movie. (Let me just say EEEEWWWWWWWW!) We saw the new James Bond movie, which I loved and was very into, except that Mr. Sweat kept touching my back and legs. I had to stay one step ahead of him, because I didn't really want to slap him in the theater. (I mentioned the movie was really good right?) He walked me to my car and came in for a goodnight kiss....at which point, I turned around, got in my car and drove a crazy route home, just in case he was following me.

Guy number three was in the army, but had a very special secret that he and his recently deceased, sainted wife kept.
He liked to wear women's clothes and makeup.
No. I am not kidding. Now, here's the thing...that doesn't scare me or make me freak out because, good for him. To be comfortable enough with yourself and to want to find someone to love you for you is what we are all doing, so to each his own. I don't judge him for his lifestyle, I just don't want to play.
The next contestant decided after our first date, that he was in love with me. He brought me flowers EVERY DAY for a week and when I told him that this was very sweet but a little too much, he started calling me every.......five........minutes. When I finally answered, he blurted out that he was going to die without me and that if he couldn't have me, no one would. Nice. He actually called me one Sunday when I was out shopping with Vickie and told me he couldn't get into my backyard because the sprinklers were on. I tried hard to casually ask him WHY he would need to get into my backyard, and he said that he had mowed my front yard and trimmed my shrubs and just wanted to finish the job. We lovingly refer to him as the "Lawn mowing stalker" and Brad at work has this guys name in case I go missing one day.

The men after that were all a blur...except for one who told me during his glass of chardonnay that he was, in fact, gay. Hm. What was in my profile that was making this happen?

Then, one afternoon in August, I was matched with a man who looked so familiar to me, that I stared for awhile, trying to place where I knew him from. This guy had actually 'closed' me, because we lived too far away from each other. I had been 'closed' by a dozen men before, and my only thought was to move on. What did I care if they closed me before they got to know me? But this man was different. His posts were funny and wry and I couldn't shake that I somehow knew him. I sent him a 'please reconsider' post and the next thing I knew, we were sending guided communications across the net. Usually the process takes awhile, with both people being busy....but this guy and I started emailing back and forth so quickly, it became apparent that we did, indeed actually need to talk. Late that night, after a series of posts during which I would type something then compulsively check to see if he had answered in between other chores and things, I started realizing that I wanted to 'chat' with him all night, but couldn't sit at my computer any longer. That was when we decided to actually talk. He gave me his number, told me to wait until he got his children to bed at 9:30 and to call him then.

I was sooo nervous. I was also a little scared he would turn out to be cuckoo for Coco Puffs, so I wanted to be able to use the call blocker to block my phone number. Turns out, I am an idiot and couldn't make it work, so I called him from my cell, just in case.

He answered, with a soothing voice, gentle manner, sharp, sarcastic wit..........
Oh! The promise I heard in that voice!

................................................... and the adventure began.

Sunday, May 4, 2008

Next up; MOM!

How do I even begin to talk about my mother? She is intelligent, quick witted, sarcastic, genuine, brave, fierce about her family, loyal, opinionated, not afraid to try new things and has a soft, chocolate, center. (She actually put that gem into her description of herself on an online dating service until Stacey and I laughed her out of it.)
More later.....

Cody, Bex and Brody

My only other sibling has turned out to be my role model for relationships. Cody is 12 years my junior, rowdy, energetic, optimistic, not afraid to take chances and completely devoted to his family.

I remember when he was born, all I wanted to do was hold him and entertain him. I used to have to put him down for naps on his 'fraggle' and tap his back in a series of threes to get him to go to sleep. He was incredibly annoying and supremely entertaining at the same time.
He has grown into a confidant for me. Someone with whom I can share secrets and get absolutely no judgement in return. We have gone on runs in 115 degree weather where I have bared my soul to him and he didn't once say to me "Are you nuts?"
He is a devoted husband and father and has a vision for himself and his life that makes him unwilling to settle for second best. He is not one of those men who will spend his life doing what he needs to do in order to get what he wants. He is a man with the courage to pursue what he wants to do in order to provide for his needs. Brave, loyal, funny as hell, mischievous and the only one who can hug me like my dad used to.

His wife is the perfect addition to our family. She is strong, opinionated, silly, and amazing mother and has the uncanny ability to let Cody be Cody. She is the perfect sister that Stacey and I never knew we wanted...but it turns out we need her too. She is an amazing mother to Brody, and my favorite person to have a drink with and sit around the campfire. She is totally honest, insightful and FUNNY without even realizing it.
I am blessed beyond reason the have these three terrific people in my life.

Friday, May 2, 2008

Stacey Diane, Practically Perfect in Every Way.

Other than my children, the thing I am most grateful for is my family, so I thought I would take a few minutes to say something about them. My sister is 25. That makes me 13 years older than her...which means nothing other than her butt is better than mine. Well, OK, and she has no gray hair and crows feet...but we are the same age everywhere else. She is determined, fierce, funny, trustworthy, has great rhythm and is the best aunt I have ever witnessed. She laughs like nobody on the planet, with her nostrils and shoulders shaking, she sounds like a chicken with hiccups. I used to call her at work and say ridiculous things just to make her lose it. She actually had to make a sign that she held up that said, "I am ok, I am talking to my sister" because people thought she was choking.

She has never once failed to come when I need her, and although I am older, she is wiser and frequently talks me down from the ledge. She is one of my best friends and confidants.

We have driven to Disneyland on a whim, seen hundreds of movies and spent hours driving aimlessly sharing secrets and snacks. In February of 2007, we drove to the Natural Bridge up in Payson. On a slick, 2 lane, mountain road, with a 1500 foot cliff on one side and a mountain on the other, my back tires slid out from under the suburban and we crashed. We slammed into the mountain and then started to flip. All I could think about as we rolled over and over was that we were going over the edge. When we finally stopped, we were upside down. Surrounded by glass, I couldn't imagine how I was going to get Stacey out without cutting her to shreds. We both felt something push us over to upright at the same time. We are sure it was our Dad. :) When we landed, we looked at each other and she yelled, "Put on the brake, " and we had to climb out the windows. There was no cell reception, and we were on a rarely traveled forest road, so we had to wait for someone to come by and had to send them to get a park ranger. It was terrifying, but we walked away unscathed. She had a cut on her palm, I had some broken ribs and a concussion, and we both had wicked whiplash. We spent the next few days recuperating by laying on my trampoline in the sunshine in pain, but laughing. Laughing because we could, because we were alive, because we were together and because it would take more than a slippery mountain road to take us from each other.

She is one of my heroes and I am thankful to my Heavenly Father for allowing us to be together.

I look forward to seeing what happens in her life as she gets older. It will be every bit as amazing as her.

Friday, April 11, 2008


Thinking a lot about love and what it means to be "in love." People frequently express the sentiment that they love someone, but they are not in love with them. What does that mean?

I love my children, I love my family, I love my dog, I love blueberries, I love the sound of Hawley Lake and the smell of the ocean, but how can my love for blueberries equal how I feel about my children? The answer is that it cannot. There are all different kinds of love.

With that being said, what am I looking for in my life? What kind of love am I interested in having for me? What kind of relationship, what kind of man? Marriage or living together? Manly he-man or sensitive guy......can you find both in one man? Can you truly love one person for the rest of your life? FOREVER?

I think I am looking for a man who can communicate. Someone who will discuss the events of the day and life with me and listen to me prattle on endlessly about nothing while still thinking I am charming. (Good luck, right?) Someone who can laugh at himself and the chaos of life and be able to talk me down when I let it all get to me. Someone brave. Someone who WANTS to be with me, who thinks I am dead sexy. Someone who can sleep on the trampoline because the weather is nice, who knows I hate roses and that I have a thing for fresh sheets. Someone who will enjoy my attention and affection without feeling smothered and someone who doesn't mind watching as I slowly evolve into my grandmother.

I think I found him. I hope I found him. He makes me feel tingly and bubbly and hopeful for the first time in a century. I am scared. If this is not him, I am scared there will never be a HIM. If this man is not him after all, I don't think HE exists.
If Project Redwood is not the man I think he is, there is a very real possibility that I will become my neighborhood's 'Crazy Cat Lady.' Unfortunately, I am not a huge fan of cats, so I will have to settle for the 'Crazy Dog Lady' and that just doesn't have the same ring to it.

I am crossing my fingers and putting out all the positive energy I have in regards to this situation. I will jump......and if my bungee cord doesn't break my fall, at least I have had a hell of a ride.